Negative Relater

Negative behavior is usually an indication of high stress or strong conditioning. Scores for negative behavior should fall well within the dark shaded area. A high score in this section indicates a negative Relater pattern.

Negative Relaters are the picture of what is commonly known as codependent. They are very passive and refuse to take a stand on anything. Because they are overly concerned about creating any kind of conflict, disappointing someone, or hurting their feelings, they won’t stand up for themselves or disagree with others, even when they know the others to be wrong. Negative Relaters have great difficulty initiating projects, expressing their ideas or speaking up in group discussions. They are easily hurt by the slightest criticism or disapproval, so they avoid areas where these are possible. Negative Relaters require approval so much that they will volunteer to do unpleasant or demeaning things in order to get others to like and approve of them. They feel helpless and are extremely unhappy or uncomfortable when alone, so they go to great lengths to find ways to have others around on whom they can depend. They have very poor coping skills, so they tend to go from acting very passive and helpless to becoming very aggressive, blowing up and throwing tantrums whenever they feel threatened. They see most interactions as threatening, but seek comfort by leaning on others. They control by eliciting guilt or pity.